Whilst in the supermarket yesterday, I heard a tired sounding mom asking her howling toddler, ‘Why are you making shopping so difficult today?’
Toddlers don’t realise that shopping has to be done and… ‘NO’, mom can’t leave you behind at home to carry on playing with your new truck. Oh, and then we have to collect your sister from school. Aaargh!
When life starts to intrude on the idea that his ‘universe’ should revolve entirely around him, this is the time that your toddler should start to learn about consequences.
Although at this age we normally call it – sharing.
If I let Jonny play with my truck, then I might get a ‘go’ with his new football?
Yes, sharing normally begins as a very self-serving skill. This is not a problem as long as parents play fair and share equally too.
Sharing is usually a good method of distraction.
With young children it’s more acceptable to them, if both parties have something to be ‘swopped’. If I give you this book with the picture of the green dinosaur, will you let me have a turn with the TV remote?
Whoa, that’s the way to get your stuff back! Just move on to the orange dinosaur page next and he’s forgotten about your TV remote.
Distraction can be an excellent strategy, IF it’s done in a positive way.
Bribery is NOT good! Promising sweets and burgers if a child co-operates only leads to trouble.
When they don’t ‘get stuff’ every time someone asks something of them, then that breeds resentment.
Whilst offering clear ‘do’s and don’ts’ for your toddler it is also important to try and be nurturing and forgiving, rather than punishing.
If you are assertive, but not intrusive and restrictive, then you will encourage your child to grow into a positive, decisive, sociable individual.
Well, if all that sounds quite daunting, remember… that is your ‘end result’!
Although you can jump in at any stage during the ‘parenting process’, like any other learning process it’s probably most effective if you start at the beginning.
“If your kids are giving you a headache, follow the directions on the aspirin bottle, especially the part that says, ‘Keep Away From Children’!” ~Susan Savannah
I’d love to hear if you have any good hints and tips for Toddler Taming?
Please let me know below…